Long-distance Relationships

 

The first reaction many of us would have when hearing about the term long-distance relationship, must be a cringing reaction. An unpleasant thought we have in regards to long-distance relationships. I am here to assure you and ease your thoughts that it is not all bad. It does have its advantages; it might not seem like it now, but they are present, always.

Let me start with the negative side of a long-distance relationship. The most obvious effect would be the distance and separation between two individuals. The pain that comes together with the distance. The days that take place when you long for your loved one, just their touch or longing for a warm hug from them. Where everyday seems like it will never come to an end, it just always drags longer than it should. The mood swings that come along with it, the sadness on a daily basis. Where a phone call and video call do not seem enough no more, where you long for more…

Now the scariest part that one cannot help but wonder about, where it crosses your mind at times. Even if it only happens ones, it will eventually happen. The thought of: What if my partner finds someone else? What if my partner cannot handle the long distance between us no more? As much as you have trust in the connection and relationship you have with your partner, these thoughts do occur at times, and it is completely normal. There is nothing wrong with being scared, in fact, you are preparing your mind and emotions for the worst possible.

The best part of participating in a long-distance relationship is how much stronger the connection grow, day by day. You realize the true meaning of your partner, what role they have/play in your life. You see the true importance of the other person where you value it more. Furthermore, whenever you do see one another, or when you are physically together, you make use of every moment you have with them. Simply because you know how it feels to not be with them on a daily basis. You make the most of the time you have whenever you are physically together because you do not know when it will just be snatched away from you again. It could happen any day, any moment, and any second.

Therefore, not only do long-distance relationships have negative impacts, but it certainly has positive impacts as well. Where one knows not to take anything for granted when you are with your partner. Where it feels every time like the first time you met. Hopefully, you have a more positive response whenever you read or hear about long-distance relationships again. Think of it as more of that there are eventually light at the tunnel and the light is so much worth the wait and patience. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship, focus more on the positive aspects. This will also make the experience less dragging.